Hi! I'm Haylin.

I'm a seasoned sex educator and health promotion professional with a focus in sexual health and youth empowerment. With over seven years of experience in developing health education programming, working in sex toy retail, and putting condoms on bananas, I don't just talk about sex—I know about it.

My mission is to support everyone—regardless of gender, orientation, libido, relationship style, kink/fetish, or sexual experience—in living their best and healthiest sexual lives. No question is too stupid, and no fantasy is too bizarre. All you have to do is ask.

In addition to my work as a health educator, I have experience as a freelance writer, an editorial consultant, a sex shop employee, a workshop facilitator, a public speaker, an abortion doula, and more. I'm a practicing witch and professional tarot reader currently living in New York City with my cat, Princess Walter.

If you'd like to support me, my work, and/or my cat, click one of the buttons below.



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Meet Miss Vera: The gender coach who’s helped hundreds discover their true identities @ Daily Dot

My magical week at a massive bikini-clad festival for queer women of color @ Fusion

This smart and sexy pop-up shop is every feminist’s dream come true @ Fusion

The nightmare of watching Netflix while battling PTSD @ Fusion

Should every man do Kegels? @ Fusion

Interracial Dating Horror Stories: When Racist White Men Date Women of Color @ XOJane

There’s a whole world of luxury vegan condoms out there for when you get tired of regular rubbers @ Fusion

This #BlackLivesMatter pole-dance protest is beautiful @ Fusion

Black people can't get depression and other mental health myths @ The Tempest

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My Feminism Involves Witchcraft, a self-care newsletter for magical thinkers @ Tinyletter

The Girl in 04C, a sex and relationship advice column @ The Columbia Daily Spectator

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Planning an educational event, employee training, or social gathering? With nearly eight years of experience developing and facilitating award-winning health education workshops for teens and adults, I’m happy to tailor my expertise to your specific needs. I specialize in delivering medically accurate information on taboo topics in an engaging, friendly, and conversational way. All of my interactive workshops are taught from an intersectional, queer-inclusive, sex-positive, harm reduction framework, and can be adapted for ages 12+. I am available for programming related to:

- queer/trans-inclusive and culturally sensitive language
- sexually transmitted infection (STI) and pregnancy risk, management, and prevention
- facilitation skills for educators, facilitators, and peer leaders
- witchcraft and/or sex magic as radical self-care
- sexual technique (i.e. oral sex, handjobs, pelvic floor health, kink) and toys
- communication and healthy relationships for teens and adults
- custom workshops related to sexual health, reproductive justice, and/or witchcraft

I offer reduced rates for select nonprofit and educational organizations. I also offer one-on-one Q&As and consultations via text message through Asking For A Friend. I do not offer sexual services and I am not a licensed medical or health care provider.

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