my MANIFESTO:

All people deserve an integrated sex life and the healthy pursuit of pleasure.

All means all: no matter someone's age, sexual orientation, libido, gender identity, kink, fetish, fantasy, relationship structure, sexual experience, race/ethnicity, class, history of trauma, physical ability, mental/emotional health, or cultural attitudes towards sex, all people have a right to the information they need to make decisions about their sexual health and pleasure, and to receive this information in spaces that are safe, accessible, and comfortable.

Our sex lives are not separate from our "real" lives, and finding our happiest, healthiest sex lives is a crucial part of maintaining our overall well-being.  Whether someone wants lots of kinky sex or no sex at all, being able to clearly identify and safely pursue our desires is a fundamental part of living an integrated life that encompasses mental, emotional, physiological, spiritual, and social well-being.

We often teach reproductive health from the perspective of NOT getting STIs, and teach consent from the perspective of NOT violating consent or having one's consent violated. I believe that sexuality education, and health education more broadly, must also explore the pursuit of pleasure, whether that means talking about pleasurable safer sex practices, destigmatizing STI diagnoses, experiencing non-sexual pleasure and intimacy, pursuing pleasure post-gender transition, or the power of consent to facilitate pleasurable sexual exploration.