writer, sex educator, yogi, witch
writer, sex educator, yogi, witch
I'm a seasoned sex educator and health promotion professional with a focus in reproductive justice and youth empowerment. With nearly a decade of experience in developing health education programming, working in erotic retail, and putting condoms on bananas, I don't just talk about sex—I know about it. I'm also a Tarot reader, witch, and holistic wellness healer, offering yoga classes and one-on-one wellness coaching from a mind-body-spirit perspective.
My mission is to support everyone—regardless of gender, orientation, libido, relationship style, kink/fetish, physical fitness, trauma background, or sexual experience—in living their best and healthiest lives. No question is too stupid, and no fantasy is too bizarre. All you have to do is ask.
In addition to my work as an educator, I have experience as a freelance writer, an editorial consultant, a sex shop employee, a workshop facilitator, a public speaker, a yoga instructor, and more. I'm a practicing witch, yogi, and professional tarot reader currently living in New York City with my cat, Princess Walter.
All means all: no matter someone's age, sexual orientation, libido, gender identity, kink, fetish, fantasy, relationship structure, sexual experience, race/ethnicity, class, history of trauma, physical ability, mental/emotional health, or cultural attitudes towards sex, all people have a right to the information they need to make decisions about their sexual health and pleasure, and to receive this information in spaces that are safe, accessible, and comfortable.
Our sex lives are not separate from our "real" lives, and finding our happiest, healthiest sex lives is a crucial part of maintaining our overall well-being. Whether someone wants lots of kinky sex or no sex at all, being able to clearly identify and safely pursue our desires is a fundamental part of living an integrated life that encompasses mental, emotional, physiological, spiritual, and social well-being.
We often teach reproductive health from the perspective of NOT getting STIs, and teach consent from the perspective of NOT violating consent or having one's consent violated. I believe that sexuality education, and health education more broadly, must also explore the pursuit of pleasure, whether that means talking about pleasurable safer sex practices, experiencing non-sexual pleasure and intimacy, pursuing pleasure post-gender transition, or the power of consent to facilitate pleasurable sexual exploration.
Video Profile: Ozy Magazine, "Spells for the Modern Day Sorceress"
Profile: Garden Collage, "Haylin Belay on Practicing Witchcraft in NYC"
Two-Part Profile: AYO Magazine, "Health Educator Haylin Belay Wants You to Be Okay With Sex" & "Witchcraft As Black Feminist Practice: Part II With Educator Haylin Belay"
Profile: Blue & White Magazine, "Campus Character: Haylin Belay"
Podcast Profile: Real Talk Radio, "Haylin Belay on Sex Education, Modern Witchcraft, and Relationship Anarchy"
Podcast Profile: Juicy Bits, "Sexpert Haylin Belay"
Podcast Profile: Biology of the Blog, "Haylin Belay"
Podcast Interview: Another Round, "Dearest Y'all, We Have Some News."
Podcast Interview: Flash Forward, "How Is Babby (Not) Made"
Podcast Interview: Radio Interview: Sex Ed with DB, "Meet Your Students Where They're At"
Podcast Interview: MetroFocus, "The Physical Effects of Racism" [Part 1] [Part 2]
TV Interview: Sex. Right. Now., "Ladies of Sex Tech" [trailer]
TV Panel Interview: The Daily Show, "Sexual Racism: When Preferences Become Discrimination"
iHeartRadio, "2018 Psychic Predictions: Taylor Swift, Kanye West, Britney Spears, & More"
WHEDCo.org, "JAM Empowers Middle and High School Students through Sex-Ed"
InStyle, "Sexual Consent: Why We Still Haven’t Gotten the Conversation Right"
Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit 2018 [Panel] "Power, Pleasure, Profit: Radical Visions of Consent"
Black Girl Project Sisterhood Summit 2018 "The Sacrament of Yes: Creating a Positive Consent Culture"
Keynote: Northwest Magic Conference 2018 "What Feels Right: Intuition & Pleasure In Magical Practice" / "Mind, Body, & Spirit: Bodywork for Healing Intuition"
Civil Liberties and Public Policy 2018 [Panel] "Power, Pleasure, Profit: Radical Visions of Consent"
National Sex Ed Conference 2017 "Creating, Maintaining, and Repairing Safe Spaces"
SisterSong 2017 [Plenary Panel] "Power, Pleasure, Profit: Radical Visions of Consent"
Columbia University Scholars Program Symposium 2014 "Alcohol use and risky sexual behavior among young adults living in Nantes, France"
BACCHUS Initiative General Assemblies 2012/2013/2014, Regional Assembly 2013/2014, IvyAlcohol Symposium 2014 "Responsible Communities @ Columbia: Peer Education Models for Alcohol Education"